fr: -kat- a.k.a. crusivol
pde ask ako sa inio? ganito kasi yan mga guys may problema ako about this certain girl... ang girl na toh i like her very much... alam nia pero di ko alam kung like nia rin ako... almost 1 month ko n cia court... pero sabi nia wala daw cia gusto tlga sa akin... pero e2 ako baliw sa love court ko pa rin cia.. never surrender ika nga... sabi nga nia wag ko n cia tawagan... di ko nga cia tinawagan pero last week sabi nia call ko cia... ano ba un! tapos nun mukhang olrayt n uli lahat... last sabado nga nagbar kami kasama friends ko... pero nainis cia sa akin... 25 mins late daw me sa pagsundo sa kanya... tapos sa bar raw tahimik ako at di cia kinakausap... (kinakausap ko nmn pero di madalas) haiiiz tapos aun nga sabi nia inis rin cia sa pagalisalis ko... kea dinedma nia ako... e2 tanong ko ngayon... bat cia naga2lit ng ganun? GF ko ba cia para magalit cia ng ganun? e cia na nagsabi na wala tlga... tingin nio sa pangya2ri na un may small chance ba ako na makapiling cia 4life... i really like her....
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It is a natural human trait to feel a deep kind of satisfaction or gratification, when we are being appreciated and loved. Such feelings of fulfillment are sort of addictive that once its source is taken away from you, a sense of loss will ensue. The same premise can be applied with your query about why she is as you said - "bat cia naga2lit ng ganun? GF ko ba cia para magalit cia ng ganun? e cia na nagsabi na wala tlga?". All because of your portrayal of something that is out of the usual ?Im So In Love With You? that she is quite accustomed to; "nainis cia sa akin... 25 mins late daw me sa pagsundo sa kanya... tapos sa bar raw tahimik ako at di cia kinakausap"
No person in this world can deny him/herself the satisfaction and the inconspicuous appreciation that comes from knowing that someone loves them. We may not choose to respond from it but it is a fact that once that love is taken away from you, you will seek to acquire it back even though you know that you do not want to reciprocate, at first.
" tingin nio sa pangya2ri na un may small chance ba ako na makapiling cia 4life... i really like her...."
Remember this; the only time to at least think of giving up on love while you are in the middle of courtship is when apathy comes unfolding. As long as certain feelings are being recognized and somehow responded to, then good possibilities abound. So don?t lose hope, it is far better to have hope than despair.
You'll be surprised to find out how far you can go from the point where you thought it was the end. Patience and fortitude are part ingredients of a beautiful love relationship, especially in its beginning phase.
^_^
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Self Notion
Fr: Nazgul of RB
Quick question: What can one do if one's on the rebound from a failed long-term relationship (flirting skills = rusty); is a well known snob or "too close to girls", and people think he's not date material but very much friend material?
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How you see and perceive yourself is different with how you portray yourself. The famous line from a Batman movie comes to play ”It is not what you are deep inside, it is what you do.. that defines you”
Put it simply, all the things that you do will serve as sort of a façade that will determine how people will perceive you as. Since they have no other means from which to draw conclusions, people will just simply base their perception of you on what is conspicuous, however speculative that may be.
So you think you are a bit rusty in the field of relating, you think that people consider you as being “too close to girls” therefore should not be trusted when it comes to intimacy or that you are not a BF material so should only be treated as a friend. That my friend is how you perceive yourself and can be considered as a simple self notion. Then again.. if somebody tells you all that, then let ‘that’ serve as a challenge for you – prove them wrong!
The question that you should be asking yourself is ”Am I ready to finally give what is due not just to myself but to the one that I want to be with?”
When you have finally chosen someone to pursue and you're ready to make a full commitment, you will find yourself asking question and have sort of a nagging sense of self-doubt. ”Is she/he really the one for me?”, Am I making the right choice?, Will I fail?, Will I not regret this in the long run?, Does she/he feels the same way?”
Yes these queries are quite natural, you just simply want to ensure yourself. Well, the best way to make sure a relationship succeeds is to make sure it's the right one from the start! Now take that necessary first step and cross the bridge to the other side. You'll never know, unless you'll give it in to it, like first class.
Good Luck!
Quick question: What can one do if one's on the rebound from a failed long-term relationship (flirting skills = rusty); is a well known snob or "too close to girls", and people think he's not date material but very much friend material?
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How you see and perceive yourself is different with how you portray yourself. The famous line from a Batman movie comes to play ”It is not what you are deep inside, it is what you do.. that defines you”
Put it simply, all the things that you do will serve as sort of a façade that will determine how people will perceive you as. Since they have no other means from which to draw conclusions, people will just simply base their perception of you on what is conspicuous, however speculative that may be.
So you think you are a bit rusty in the field of relating, you think that people consider you as being “too close to girls” therefore should not be trusted when it comes to intimacy or that you are not a BF material so should only be treated as a friend. That my friend is how you perceive yourself and can be considered as a simple self notion. Then again.. if somebody tells you all that, then let ‘that’ serve as a challenge for you – prove them wrong!
The question that you should be asking yourself is ”Am I ready to finally give what is due not just to myself but to the one that I want to be with?”
When you have finally chosen someone to pursue and you're ready to make a full commitment, you will find yourself asking question and have sort of a nagging sense of self-doubt. ”Is she/he really the one for me?”, Am I making the right choice?, Will I fail?, Will I not regret this in the long run?, Does she/he feels the same way?”
Yes these queries are quite natural, you just simply want to ensure yourself. Well, the best way to make sure a relationship succeeds is to make sure it's the right one from the start! Now take that necessary first step and cross the bridge to the other side. You'll never know, unless you'll give it in to it, like first class.
Good Luck!
The forgotten Blog
Damn! If I can only clone myself!!
I know, I know.. it takes once every 4 to 5 months for me to be able to spare lil of my time to put something into this blog. Oh well, since Im home and sick, might as well update a lil. I'll just have a snack first and drink my meds. ^_^
I know, I know.. it takes once every 4 to 5 months for me to be able to spare lil of my time to put something into this blog. Oh well, since Im home and sick, might as well update a lil. I'll just have a snack first and drink my meds. ^_^
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