Breaking Up!

Fr: Mhike

"I need na pumunta ng baguio para mag aral sa SLU and dun na ko mag stay with my sister. syempre maiiwan ko na yung gf ko na nasa bataan. katulad sa sister ko na di nagwork yung long distance relationship. alam ko naman na ganun din kahihinatnan namin ng gf ko. my gf is studying here sa province while ako naman panibagong buhay sa malayong lugar. ilang beses ko ng try na makipag break pero ayaw nya. ano gagawin ko?"


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I think it is pretty obvious that Love still exist deep within, it also wee bit obvious that you have already chosen the path to a better future over and against the path to a possible life with your Girlfriend. In some cases, both paths can crisscross harmoniously and be achieved eventually, yet in your case, deeply influenced by the 2nd hand experiential learning of a close relative, that you have chosen otherwise.

Break Up! Just the mere uttering of it suggests a situation with inevitable pain, suffering and loss from either parties or just one. Even if both parties may well agree that it is in their best interests to severe their romantic ties and part ways due to legitimate reasons, still.. there is a certain amount of loss attached to it.

The best way to approach a situation where a break up is finally needed to suffice the present interests, is to do it with the best of your ability to come up with as little pain as possible so as to smoothen the transition and dissipation of the suffering that it will entail.

You know your Girlfriend better than anyone else, your knowledge about her emotional capabilities will definitely help in determining the factors you will need to consider in the break up process. Factors are:
- the right time to do it;
- the best place to do it;
- the best reasons on why you both need to do it and
- most importantly, why she must have to completely accept it.

Remember, no matter how you do it, or how you express it in things you say - if you are completely honest with yourself and so does your partner, then you will both be able to move on and grow from this experience.

Much like in the cliche "If it was meant to be, it will be."

Your situation reminds me of the song There's No Easy Way to Break Somebody's Heart - James Ingram
(I kinda like the version of Livingston Taylor)