Unrequited Love

Fr: TSG

Hi Dj_BB! I have this question that's been bothering me eversince I can remember. Why is it that some people often fall in love with someone who doesn't love them in return? Unrequited love. Or why is it that some people don't fall in love with people who are in love with them? Still, Unrequited love. Could you expand on this a bit more. That Unrequited love thing is getting annoying!


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Indeed, one of the hardest if not the hardest situation ever is to sit beside the one you love and not be able to freely tell them how much you truly love them, not be able to hug them so tight and get the same reaction in return ? thus, your love is unrequited (not returned nor reciprocated, repaid nor satisfied)

Age old Cliche - it takes two to tango. A love relationship is like a two way street. Like a baseball catch play whereas either of the two players must throw and catch the ball, should either one stop ? its game over. TSG's prob is that the game never got started in the first place, all due to the absence of cooperation from the other player.

Truth be told; there are gazillion things in this world that you can have, you can attain and you can control, but on the other side of the coin, there are also gazillions things in this world that you can never have, can never attain and can never control. It is not funny playing by the rules.. It really sucks like hell, but That?s Just The Way It Is!! (6 simple words that I tell myself every single time that despair comes knockin` in my mind)

In the words of Billie Joe Armstrong "You can't go forcing something that's just not right"

In a world full of complexities, it is the simplest explanation that tends to be the right one; It is neither your fault nor the one you want to be with, when it comes to unrequited love. When you tried everything but to no avail and ended up in absolute futility.. then just simply remember the aforementioned 6 words.

All is not lost though! Look at the bright side; at least you are getting stronger as you experience difficulties brought about by heartaches, these difficulties tend to make you stronger not weaker. Experiential learning is definitely innate, more than just a requirement to grow. And.. after meeting a few wrong ones, imagine how grandeur it will be once you meet the right one.

Two things:
- either you are not meant to be or
- you just haven't contributed much to make it blossom into a beautiful love relationship.

Love is like a plant of slow growth; it does not grow, take root and bloom overnight. It needs to be pampered and nurtured with sunlight, water and all the other things that it requires. Once it becomes a beautiful plant, you will have to continue nurturing it or else it will wither away and die out of neglect.